Leaving your loved one in search of something new may not be as exciting as it sounds. Find out how A Wrinkle in Time reminds us that our wildest dreams could already be reality.
Spoiler Alert: If you have not seen ‘A Wrinkle In Time’, this post contains details that may ruin the movie experience for you. Read at your own risk.
‘A Wrinkle in Time’ was extraordinary movie filled with traditional themes about self-respect, light vs. darkness and love, but with a cosmic twist. Not only does it remind us of the harm that tearing others down causes, but it also points out the harm we do to ourselves when we ridicule and critique every imperfection.
Perhaps the most relevant theme from the movie can be summed up in this one line: “I wanted to hold hands with the universe when I should have held hands with you.” Chris Pine’s character Mr. Murry is Meg’s (Storm Reid) dad who is a brilliant scientist in search of something more. He wants to see all the beauty the universe has to offer. He devotes all of his time to trying to find a way to do it and believes that if he can find a way to activate the ‘tesseract’, they can effectively ‘wrinkle’ time and cut down billions of light years of travel to mere moments.
During one of the flashbacks, we find out how he discovered the tesseract trigger. He is watching his wife (Gugu Mbatha-Raw) sing to their newly adopted son, Charles Wallace (Deric McCabe). It is in that moment that he is filled with so much love that he inadvertently activates the tesseract. Mr. Murry is so excited that he has finally figured it out that, without looking back, he rushes through the wrinkle. And just like that he’s gone.
This scene got me thinking of how this happens in relationships too. You see the love your significant other has for you. You feel it. Yet, sometimes it doesn’t feel like enough, so you go looking for more. What was once an idea is now a dream. You start to imagine what your life would be like if only you had [insert desire here] or if only your wife/husband was more [insert quality here]. Then, that dream begins to take form. You start to actively pursue this dream, and before you know it, it consumes you. You devote your time to it. You devote your money to it. And in some cases, you devote your body to it.
Some of the top reasons people cheat include the following:
Their partner stopped paying attention to them.
Another person is really there for them in a time of need.
They are having doubts about their relationship.
They are attracted to another person.
They were bored.
Their partner wasn’t having sex with them.
For men, the number one reason was ‘They were attracted to another person’. However, women cited ‘Their partner stopped paying attention to them’ as their top reason. (You can read more statistics like these here.) It is so heartbreaking knowing that all these reasons can be avoided with proper marriage coaching and mentorship.
In fact, what most cheaters find is that cheating wasn’t worth the consequences. More than 50 percent of women regret cheating while seventy-one percent of men who cheat regret their actions. Let me be clear. If you are experiencing issues in your relationship, cheating is NOT the answer. It hurts the other person, and if you really think about it, it hurts you. It morphs you into a person you never wanted to be. Among becoming a cheater, you become a liar and a manipulator. There are other, less hurtful ways to deal with unmet expectations in a relationship, such as counseling and relationship coaching.
I know some people don’t want to try counseling because they are embarrassed or ashamed. But if you are more ashamed of relationship counseling than you are of cheating, then you need to get your priorities in order. Wanting to fix your relationship is a brave thing to do, and we have created a safe space for you to do it. Don’t become like Mr. Murphy and countless others who cheat on their wives/husbands and families in search of a false reality. It leads to hurt and destruction. If you’re thinking about cheating or have been cheating, don’t maintain the lie. Or maybe your wildest dreams for your relationship are not yet a reality. But they can be. Contact us today, and let’s have a conversation.
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