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If you’re like most people you don’t want to grit your teeth and grind through a relationship.  You want it to be fun, enjoyable, amazing, everything you imagined it would be. We’re here to tell you that you can have that life.  But, it requires training and hard work.


Did you know the average cost of a wedding in the United States (2017) was $25,764. Couples spend between $19,323 and $32,205.


At the same time, the average amount spent on preparing for marriage is less than $100.


It’s no wonder we have BAD marriages.  We spend all our time and money on BIG weddings.  Our way of doing things is broken. Think about it.  You study and train to get a driver’s license, a pilot’s license, even a boating license.  Yet, if you want to get a marriage license, all you have to do is show up, pay some money and BAM! You’re married.


It’s like putting a 5 year old in a vehicle and sending him out on the Dan Ryan Expressway in Chicago.  He’s not prepared. There’s an accident, (In your marriage, it’s separation or divorce) and everyone gathers around, wondering what went wrong.  


Every year in the US, there are approximately 2.5 million weddings.  And every year, about 50% of marriages experience an accident. Statistically speaking, we know most of these weddings take place between totally unprepared individuals.  In fact, our wedding was one of them.


We thought we were prepared.  We knew people who were married.  We saw married people on TV. How hard could it be?


The answer is hard.  Trust me. We’ve been married for over 30 years, and this is hard work. If you want the marriage you’ve always dreamed of, you’ve got to be prepared.  


Does This Sound Like You? (Come on, be honest.)

  • Is your relationship lacking true intimacy?

  • Are you longing to really connect with your mate?

  • Do you fear that your marriage won’t survive?

  • Did you (or do you now) fear getting married?


We Know How You Feel

You’re not alone.  All of us have felt this way.  But your relationship doesn’t have to die because of unmet expectations.  THERE IS A BETTER WAY!


We know what it feels like to be disconnected, to have stress and the daily grind of life deplete all of your energy, while still trying to take care of things that matter most—family, health, faith, and community.


We know what it feels like to be totally disgusted with whom you pledged to spend the rest of your life.


But, we also know what it feels like to totally enjoy doing life with your mate and having dreams and goals realized.


We know what it feels like to fight together, not against each other!


Our Goal

Through our blog, seminars, podcasts and coaching/counseling, our mission is to equip couples with the tools and strategies they need to have the marriage they’ve always dreamed of.


Our message is one of teaching, transparency and hope.


However, in order for you to succeed, there’s one thing you must know first.  We’re going to let you in on a little secret. Are you ready?


You are in a war.


And war is dangerous under any circumstances, but think about how much more dangerous war is when the combatants don’t even know they’re at war.  That’s where most of us are.


As children of God, we have an enemy.  Our enemy wants to see us fail in our marriage, in our family and in life.  So, who is this enemy, and why is he constantly interfering? Good question.


The enemy is named Satan, and he hates us because God loves us.  And since he can’t do anything to God himself, he lashes out at us.  Does that make sense? Assuming you’ve had little to know training, he’s the reason you can’t seem to stop fighting with your spouse.  He’s the reason you’re lacking intimacy. He’s the reason you feel so isolated.


Satan has launched an assault to destroy your marriage, my marriage, and the institution of marriage.


The Bible makes it clear.  Ephesians 6: 10-11 says, “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”


That’s why we’re here.  That’s why we created WAR.  We’re here to not only help you put on God’s armor, but to also give you the tools your marriage will need every day to survive and ultimately thrive.  


Love is WAR!  And it’s time to suit up with us!


Free Resources

Be sure to check out our blog, podcasts and videos which are filled with great content that is available to you for FREE.


Our Products and Services

While most of our content is all free, we do offer a number of products and services.


Be sure to purchase our Book and visit our Marriage Coaching page.



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Yes, you can have the marriage you desire.  All it takes is the willingness to learn and the right mentor to guide you.


If you’ll provide the first, we’ll provide the second. Let’s get started.

About Us

Jim & Teresa believe that by combining a covenant commitment and consistent training, your marriage with not only survive, but it will thrive.

Over 30 years ago at their first ever marriage conference, they were inspired to devote our lives to servicing and training other couples.

They interact with couples all around the world through their blog, podcast, coaching sessions and events.  Also, they are co-authors of the Amazon Best Seller, Marriage; What to Do Before and After You Say 'I Do'. 


Whether you’re dating, engaged, married (happily or unhappily) or remarried, you’re already in our prayers.  You’ve come to the right place, and we can help you!  


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